Must You Have Sex to be Sex-Positive?

Updated: Aug 16, 2018

On the opening page of this site I defined sex-positive as a way of being. It comes down to an attitude more than anything. That attitude determines actions. Can you be sex-positive and not be having sex? If we are to be accepting of all choices then we would have to accept that choice.


For the past few weeks I have been listening to many podcasts. One of them is Life on the Swingset. I think it was an episode from Camp Ravish earlier this year where Cooper S Beckett mentions he has nothing against monogamous people as long as they are choosing to be monogamous and accepting other people's choices to be something else.


I think choosing to not have sex is a valid lifestyle, but there are many that feel they have no choice, or previous choices have forced them into a situation where they thought they would be having sex but it just isn't happening. This video talks about some of the health concerns as both men and women age as well as sexless marriages. This is in the context of people assuming marriage would include sex.


I respect the choices some people make to not have sex, but as someone that once lived in a sexless marriage that neither partner wanted it to be sexless, it just was happening that way, I choose to have sex as long as my body and partners will let me. According to this video my goal of having sex into my 90's is possible, as long as I take good care of my body.


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